I promised I’d go into details as to why I hate the term “friends with benefits”, and here we are. I have a lovely partner — we’ll call B — that I have been dating casually for the last year or so. We get along swimmingly, have a solid friendship…

Perhaps the biggest pitfall in the nonmonogamy community is this comically “zen” approach to dating. …

I have never read a book so slowly, that I was also so engaged with, in my entire life. Polysecure explores attachment theory through the lens of polyamory — genuinely the first book of its kind. Unfortunately I can only get about three or four pages in before I have…

Love isn’t pie — finite, and the more people who come to the table, the smaller your slice will be. Love is pi — infinite and irrational. Right? Being on a dating moratorium in order to process three straight years of brutal heartbreaks has been proving more difficult than expected…

I briefly mentioned J in my previous post, and now he makes an encore appearance. J’s and my relationship had been off to a great start. Insane romantic chemistry. So many things in common. Intense lust for each other. …

I talked quite candidly about my feelings on those who have no time for their partner(s) and yet stay active on dating apps. And, because of that, I think it’s important that I call myself out on my own dating app shit. As I mentioned before, I’m on a dating…

I should’ve known things were not going to work out with this particular partner, when he told me that he was grateful I was polyamorous, because, if he ended things to get back together with his (monogamous) ex-wife, I would understand and be okay with it. (There were a lot…

As I’ve mentioned in another post, I am on a dating moratorium. De facto monogamish, as I like to call it. I have my anchor partner — whom I’ve been with for the last 15 years — and I have a somewhat-casual partner that I see occasionally (and even more…

I mentioned in my previous post about Pokémon Polyamory. It’s a term I (semi)jovially use to describe the polyamorous people who “gotta catch ’em all!” when it comes to the dating world. You know the type. They have seven local partners, five LDRs/comets, and yet somehow they always have a…